There are certain things that you can do to take control and stop being at the mercy of your child’s negative behavior.
- Enforce discipline. Remember, children need rules. Be consistent so you don’t lose your credibility. Children also need to learn that crying is not a manipulative tool that will get them what they want. Parents should also be aware of their own behavior. Giving in to a child when he is crying to get something or to avoid being disciplined, will only reinforce negative behavior. Don’t feel bad when you have to discipline your child. A fair and appropriate reprimand will not ruin your time together if y u turn the situation into a teachable moment. This is admittedly easier said than done, but it will open up more meaningful bonding moments with your child, which is when you should give him plenty of the hugs and laughs that he needs.
- Know your child. Nobody can replace your role as a parent, which is why you should make time to really know your child. This is the only way for you to know how to handle your child in different situations, when he’s cranky, fearful, excited, or just plain happy.
- Give your full attention. When you reach home, take time to talk to your child and play with him. Also instead of just reacting to your child’s negative behavior, always respond to his good behavior, too. Praise him for the good things that he does.
- Establish trust. An opportunity to do this is when your child is going through separation anxiety. Explain to your child the things that you do. Don’t betray your child’s trust by sneaking out without saying goodbye as it will be harder for him to trust you the next time.
- Keep fit. We all know it: parenting is an exhausting job. Be sensible and stay fit by eating right, exercising and getting enough sleep.